Archive | March 2012

Week 51: Goal Pants Fit!

Mar30

Finally… the black jeans are an official fit. My weight has been updated to a total loss of 63 pounds.

I’d have to go back through my posts, but I want to say I’ve been working on these goal pants since November. Crap — four months, at least! As I’ve said before, I will never pick that big of a size difference again when choosing goal pants.  Four months was entirely too long. Ideally, I’d like to go two months or so between the clothing I choose.

The shirt? It fits everywhere except the upper arms. They’re tight. Not tight enough to be uncomfortable, since the shirt has a little stretch in it, but tight enough that I don’t think it would look good to someone else.

Now, back to those pants. I admit I’ve gone through quite the head game with these jeans, including today. I think in part it’s because it took so long to call them a fit that I was hesitant to do it. Even this morning, I was putting off saying that they were at a point where they were okay to wear. I think part of it was that they were still a little too tight in the crotch/upper thigh area when I last weighed, which was only three pounds ago, so why would they really fit any better now?

I decided that I’d put them on this afternoon, after I finished exercising, and wear them for a while to see if they’d loosen up, and they did. They’re jeans, after all, and they have a small bit of stretch in them. I went grocery shopping in them, and my mother even gave them her seal of approval; trust me, my mother is opinionated about clothes!

So, I’m sitting at 63 pounds down, now, and these jeans are size 22 — on the small side of 22. I have other jeans and shorts in size 22 that I’ve been comfortably wearing for a while, now.  I’m pretty sure I know what jeans will be next, and they are a size 20 petite.

While we’re on the subject of clothing, I did something cathartic: I took all clothes that are currently too large for me and bagged them up. They’re being donated tomorrow.  It’s an entire leaf size garbage bag full.  It felt really good to say goodbye to size 26 and 3X. Someone who needs them will have them, now, and I do consider that a big deal, because plus-size clothes are expensive.  They’re going to Big Brothers/Big Sisters.

In addition, I bagged up four other bags of clothing that is too small, but I don’t like the clothes. They are leftovers from my last big weight loss, and my strategy is different, now. Then, I was focused on a goal, and refused to buy clothes unless they were second-hand or off the clearance rack, because I considered my interim weights to be temporary and not worth spending much money on.  In retrospect, I was punishing myself.  So, I went through the clothes I’d kept that were too small, and opted to donate the ones that I don’t like.  That was four more garbage bags worth.  Why keep things that I didn’t like, or are woefully out of style?

This time around, while I am keeping spending on clothes at a minimum, I’m viewing things differently. The clothes that I have which are too small are ones which I really liked and are still in style. I’m only buying more clothes if I have necessities (think bras, underwear!), if there’s a problem with having enough of a certain kind of clothes for a season (like shorts in the right size), or I just find a piece of clothing I really like.  Everything I have, now, is something I like. This is part of accepting who I am right now, at this given moment.

I’m not taking my eyes off the goal; but I’m also not punishing myself for not being there, yet.  I want to feel good about myself at every stage, and this plan is working well.

Week 50: Getting Close

Mar27

I know, I’m late again.

I tried on my goal pants and shirt last Friday (Week 50; this is actually the start of Week 51), and the pants are closer to fitting. Just a slight difference, but I lost in the right places, and that’s what counts. I go to Vegas in about a month, and it would really be sweet to be able to wear them.

Speaking of Vegas, I’m also flying Southwest Airlines. I admit that the last time I flew SWA, out to Vegas, I was concerned that they’d pop me for an extra seat. I was most definitely heavier then I am, now.  I know I won’t have that as a possibility this time around, but what I’d really absolutely be over the moon about is if I don’t have to get a seat extender. We’ll see.

A few minor but nice victories: last Friday, I sat down on my mother’s couch, and crossed my legs. Not for a long time, but it was still sort of momentous to me!  I also did some excavating through our third bedroom, where I keep the smaller clothes that aren’t close to fitting yet, and found a couple pairs of shorts. They fit. And that’s really great, because I had been going through my available spring/summer clothes; most of what I’ve been wearing lately have been getting baggy.  I really would like to work down as far as I can in size without investing a lot in clothes, so this is good news.

 

Week 49: Weight Updated — 60 Pounds Down!

Mar16

You read that right!

Once again, I weighed, but not because my goal clothes are a fit. (More on that, in a moment.)  It was because I visited the doctor’s office for a case of bronchitis, and I knew they’d weigh, so I went ahead and weighed at home.  I mention the reason more for my own benefit, because I have sworn to not become scale-addicted and this is a reminder to myself that I’m off the scale until I can declare a fit.

Regardless of the reason, I’m glad to see 60. I wanted to see that number by the time a year came around, which is in just a few short weeks. That means, on average, I’m losing 5 pounds a month; not exactly Speedy Gonzales, but that’s okay — it’s solid progress. I’m happy with where I am at this moment, and looking forward to continuing.

Now, as for the goal clothes: the pants are closer to being a fit. They now button and zip easily; I’m just waiting for a loss in the upper thigh region, and they should fit. They’re probably close enough to do the jeans-stretch thing by wearing them, and they’d fit, but that’s not how I want to declare a fit. I want them to fit correctly from the first moment I put them on, even if they’ve just been freshly washed. As for the shirt, the only tight spot now is the upper arm area.

A final note: thanks to upper respiratory crud (and the resulting bronchitis), I’ve been out of the pool for several weeks. I’ve made a few trips down, but nothing I’d consider to be consistent enough to call it a win on exercise.  I’m now on antibiotics and hope to return to the water next week.

Week 48: Weight Updated – 56 Pounds Down

Mar9

Record Breaker

See that? 56 pounds down!  Let’s see… that looks a lot like this 56 pound record-breaking catfish.  That’s a bunch of Lisa, gone missing, and the rest of Lisa is in no hurry to track it down, either. In fact, more can get lost — and will.

Now, mind you, I broke a rule of mine by weighing today. My goal jeans and shirt are not yet a fit; in fact, the fit of the jeans hasn’t changed much over the last month or so. Slightly, but certainly not enough to consider them wearable.

Still, it’s been over three months since I last weighed, and thanks to a few friends who pointed out that it might give me a mental boost to see how much more I’ve lost, I decided to do it. (I will weigh again when the jeans are a fit.)  They were right; although I played some mental games with myself, it does feel good to know what I’ve accomplished. 56 pounds. That’s what I’ve accomplished.

Compared to my last effort, I’m doing great. I’ve busted through the low I had, then, of 284; now I’m at 278, and I started this time at a higher weight. I lost a total of 28 pounds before I gave it up last time (after 15 weeks); I’ve doubled that loss this time around.

Although it’s slow loss, I’m proving to myself that I can do this.  I’m so much better off right now than I was a year ago.  I can move better, and I feel a lot better, both physically and mentally. Although I’m still far above what my body is in dreams, and I still look in the mirror and don’t like what I see, I have made bunches of progress.

Those around me have been slow to notice, but with slow weight loss, people just don’t. They get used to seeing you at one weight, and unless you drop an alarming amount quickly, I think most people are hesitant to ask if you’ve been losing weight at the risk of offending. While a few months ago it would have helped my ego for people to notice, I think that I’m strong enough now to not need that.  (Which means that now that I don’t need to hear it, I will!)

In a little less than a month, I will have a year of successful weight loss behind me. A year.  I know I’m in a good period at the moment, and I’m looking forward to it lasting. At least for me, when I start a weight loss effort, that first day/week/month is tough.  During those days, I think a lot about how long the road is in front of me and how tough it’s going to be.  The negatives loom large, because in the beginning, that’s all I can see; even though the thought of gaining health and losing weight is exciting and positive, it’s very difficult to look at how far away I’ve deviated and not constantly beat myself up for allowing my life to go backwards.

But with nearly a year behind me and progress to show for my efforts, I’m a lot more hopeful.  I have a clothing drawer full of clothes that are intentionally too small, so I can look at them and get excited about being in that new size soon. I’ve lost enough weight for me to really feel the changes, and with so much time invested, I am in no mind to give up. I’m further down the road, and pleased with where I am. I know that it’ll be a couple more years before I’m at the point where I’d like to live the rest of my life, but I’m a lot closer to that now than I was nearly a year ago.

Weeks 46-47: Goal Pants, Thoughts on Slow Loss

Mar2

I tried on my goal pants last Friday and today; they are close — this close — to fitting.  The last two fits were approximately the same.  There’s only one spot where they really need improvement before I can call them a fit. That would be in the upper thighs/crotch area, where they don’t quite go up all the way.

I’ve been working on these same jeans since November. Yeah, over three months, now.  Enough already, I want them to fit! Like I’ve said before, though: this was my fault for choosing  jeans that were so far removed in fit from the previous pair. Yet, when they do fit, I will truly know I’ve accomplished something big.

I’ve been thinking about this for the past few weeks… I will be at this diet for a year at the beginning of April, just over a month away. I’m really hoping I can call these goal pants a fit by then, so I can claim the loss. I have been sorely tempted to weigh, lately; partly because I know I’ve lost since the last time I weighed (which was in November! Did I mention that?), and partly because I keep looking at my current number and cringing, like I should have done better.

I keep telling myself that losing slowly this time is to my benefit; as far as I can tell, I haven’t stalled, I have felt good, and while I’ve fought the occasional “why am I bothering?” demon, I’ve been satisfied with my cycling and level of restriction. What I’m also hoping is that by losing slowly, my body isn’t freaking out and I won’t hit a point where my body just screams and puts on the brakes, and won’t let me lose further. I don’t think that I’ve dropped into starvation mode at any time.

But the loss has been absolutely and painfully slow. The first time I was on Atkins, I dropped 140 pounds in probably 1.5 years or so, maybe less, and after that, it was a struggle for every ounce lost. It was about 10 pounds a month, sometimes more, sometimes less. I loved being able to lose it that fast, but in retrospect, I’m not so sure it was the best thing for my body.

Still. My brain keeps asking me if losing this slow is a good thing, or I’m just making excuses for slow weight loss and should be trying harder. Thanks to a lifetime of yoyo dieting and the constant insinuation that if I haven’t gotten my weight under control, I’m doing something w-r-o-n-g, this is a constant mental battle. I’ve been fighting the weight loss battle since I was a kid, when I really wasn’t all that overweight, but my father constantly called me “chubby” and other less endearing terms. Hell, I cringe when I hear people call babies “chubby” — I just don’t think it’s a nice term *at all*. (I also don’t like “plump”, for the record, or any other term that is supposed to be a cute way to mask “OMG are you ever FAT!”.)

For right now, I’m shooting for *not* being the fattest person in the room on a consistent basis. Then, I’ll be happy to just be counted among the normal distribution of women my age; just getting out of plus size clothes will do that for me. Would I love to be a size 8? Oh, hayell, YES, but for right now, I’d be happy to be able to walk into any clothing store and find at least *something* that will fit without having to look at the end of the plus-size rack. At size 22 for jeans, I’m pretty firmly entrenched right in the middle of the plus sizes, but I prefer that to being at the end of them.

Related to this, my mother was going through photos and throwing a bunch out. She said she found one where I was in it, and she said I must have weighed at least 400 pounds. Was I ever over 400? Yeah, maybe, I guess that’s possible. I was busting out of size 26 when I started this latest effort at 334 pounds and size 3X. I have, in a chest, a jacket and jeans I wore at my largest; the jacket was 4X (I think?) and the pants were size 32.  So yeah, I guess when I wore that size, it’s possible I was over 400. I just don’t know what I weighed at my largest. Most scales don’t go over 300, and besides that, I don’t think anyone *wants* to see what they weigh when they’re tipping the scales by that much.

Anyway… Mom said that right now, I look *terrific* compared to that pic, that I’m doing good at this and she was happy for me. In some ways, I wish I’d seen the pic. I think she was being very complimentary, but the weird part of this was that I was a little bit dismayed by it, as well, as if I felt slightly chastised for ever having been that weight. It’s foolish to feel bad about it, now, because I’m no longer that weight, but I was still a person with feelings, even at that weight, and I think what really sticks with me is the judgment people make when you’re that fat.

I actually had someone tell me, when I was at my lowest weight, that I looked really good and they were proud of me… and then they told me they were glad I lost weight because I sure was ugly when I was that fat. The guy who said it to me said it jokingly, but you know, I don’t think he was really kidding all that much; that was his opinion of me as a fat person. And that judgment hurt. It hurts, now that I’ve gained a lot of the weight back, because I sometimes wonder what people think about me inside. I wonder if they see the fat, or they see *me*.

It just seems that often, people think that being fat is an indictment of a person’s whole ethic. That they don’t try hard enough, that they’re weak, that they’re lazy. Are they at least partly right? After being faced with that judgment pretty much my whole life, some of it was bound to sink into my own brain, where *I* think that my efforts aren’t enough, no matter what the results are.

No, I’m not in a mental place where I’m at risk of tossing in the towel. Not at all. I’m just voicing some of the things that have been rolling around in my mind. I want to flog myself for not losing at the rate I did years ago, and yet, I know that this way is better for me. As long as I am getting healthier and smaller, I’m doing it right.